"But the hour cometh, and now is, when the true worshippers shall worship the Father in spirit and in truth: for the Father seeketh such to worship him."
Do you know this secret from the One who is holy and true?
If God seeks the ones willing to be in a spiritual Relationship with Him, which is the only Way to be true, how can you take any other "way" with another "human" being and still expect it to work out as you "plan" it to?
Stop and investigate.
You could be still residing in the shallow house.